8 Things Happy Couples Always Do In Bed

Gourmandize Staff, 09/15/2016

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It's no secret: relationships take work. Not only emotionally and mentally but physically as well. Aside from keeping the emotional connection alive and thriving, there are certain things happy couples always make sure they do in the bedroom. Here's a list of the top 8 things you and your partner should be doing in bed:

1. FOreplay, foreplay, foreplay

Aside from the obligatory spontaneous quickies or sexy morning wake-up calls, you and your man should never forget to engage in foreplay before the main event. A slow-build up leads to explosive orgasms, and the best part is that you can have multiple beforehand, if your guy is really in tune with your body.

2. be adventurous

Try not to be closed-minded when it comes to trying new things sexually, especially if you're in a long-term relationship. Unfortunately, things can get stale if you get into a routine (even if it gets you both off every time). To avoid this, try out new positions from time to time. Tell each other your fantasies. Do some role playing. Nothing has to be taboo, unless one of you says so.

3. be present

Sure there will be times in your life when you're super stressed and thinking of a million things at once. But when you're in the middle of having sex, the last thing you should be thinking about is what your boss said about your project, what you're going to cook for dinner tomorrow night or anything else that has nothing to do with what you're doing at the present moment. The more you pay attention to your partner and the sensations they're giving you, the more turned on you'll be, which obviously leads to better orgasms and just better sex.

4. Cuddle afterward

This is almost as important as the act of sex itself. Post-coital cuddling increases your bond and nurtures those lovey-dovey feelings that are released with your orgasms. And it's been proven that couples who cuddle less afterward are less sexually satisfied and in their relationships.

5. Give and receive oral

As a teenager, you probably dubbed it as "third base" on the spectrum of sexual acts, but you could argue that oral is almost more intimate than the act of sex itself. Why? Because it's a completely unselfish act on behalf of the person giving it, and it puts the receiver in a very vulnerable position, which means both people must have a certain level of comfort with each other. This might not always be true (re: prostitutes), but in a love relationship, it is capable of taking your lovemaking to amazing heights. (Not to mention women often achieve orgasm more often through oral stimulation than vaginal).

6. Don't neglect various erogenous zones

Do not pass go. Do not collect pleasure without stimulating the various erogenous zones which can really get your sex engines revving. We're talking about ears (specifically the cartilage area), nipples, inner thighs, the perineum (for men) and anywhere else you get a tingle when your partner goes there.

7. Praise each other

The bedroom is not a place to be quiet (unless your walls are thin, and you have neighbors). So don't be afraid to tell your guy you think he's a sex god or give him moans of encouragement when he's hitting all the right spots. When he does something that pleases you, the best thing you can do is tell him, so he knows he's on the right track. You'll give him a massive confidence boost, and he should be as vocal with his satisfaction as you.

8. Talk

Okay, okay, so sex isn't the ONLY thing you should be doing in the bedroom. Simply talking to your partner before you go to bed (whether you do the deed or not) is an important ritual to preserve in your relationship. Because after all is said and done, if you can sleep with your partner but have nothing to say to them, things probably won't go very far...